Tuesday, April 3, 2012

Anxiety/OCD

If you have read a single one of my blogposts, you are obviously aware of the fact that i am not normal. Back probably about 8 years ago, i was diagnosed with an Anxiety Disorder/OCD.  At least thats when i was diagnosed (i am sure that i have always been a little nutty).  Having an anxiety disorder is basically like functioning at 120% every. waking. minute.  You are in overdrive.  Your heart is constantly racing, and you are always nervous and afraid.  Its like the world is a haunted house, and you are stuck in that baby for the next 80 years.  


I can make all the jokes i want about it now, because it is relatively under control.  I have a tool box of tools (mental tools, not prescription tools) to help me deal with most situations, and aside from the occasional panic attack (COSTCO....) I function like the rest of you.


Back when things were not so good, I was having a lot of problems with anxiety, and almost had to take a semester off from school.  I was afraid to leave the house, i was afraid to eat most foods (in case they would give me food poisoning), I was afraid of strangers, public spaces, germs, etc.  I definitely didn't exercise in anyway, not that i could have, because i was very underweight from only eating foods that i could guarantee were not going to give me food poisoning  (white rice and ice cream.) (it's amazing how the sick mind finds behaviors reasonable....)


When it got so bad that i was too afraid to leave my apartment to go to school, I had to seek some kind of help.  There are really two ways to approach anxiety disorders:
1. Prescription Drugs.
2. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy


Obviously, being afraid of everything else also made me terrified of prescription drugs.  I just don't like the idea of altering the human mind with chemicals.  (i would make a terrible heroine addict.)


I chose the CBT.  


Basically, with CBT you study your behaviors, look for patterns, and try to introduce healthier ways of dealing with anxiety.  My OCD developed as a way of dealing with all the anxiety, because repetition is so gosh darn soothing.  Apparently, even when i was a baby, i would wake up in the night, cry, and then proceed to bang my head against the crib until i calmed down and went back to sleep.  (Also - thanks mom for letting me bludgeon myself to sleep most nights. no wonder my brain doesn't work.)  The OCD was feeding off the anxiety, and vice versa, and they both just got worse and worse.  
The first step was getting the OCD under control.  Eating the same food every day = malnutrition.  I slowly started eating a variety of foods (although i still have a lot of anxiety over food that i don't personally prepare.)  One standout memory i have is eating salsa.  Because i ate a bunch of it, and then looked at the lid and realized there was mold.  I had an epic panic attack, and stayed up all night waiting to die from food poisoning.  Obviously, i was fine.  I didn't even get a stomach ache.


Its funny to look back at times like that, because if the same thing happened now, i would respond with, "Meh, i suppose i should stop eating this now.  bummer."  I think sometimes being exposed to your worst fear helps you realize that it's maybe not such a big deal.  


There have been two things that have significantly helped me deal with my anxiety.


1.  Teaching.  Teaching at Purdue threw me so far outside of my comfort zone that i had no choice but to adapt.  Plus knowing that all those students were depending on me to show up and not be crazy really forced me into taking control of the situation and doing my best.  Ever since that, i feel like i can control a room with confidence (even if i am fakin it til i make it)


2. Running.  (see, it always eventually comes back to running!) Running, especially for long distances, just helps me focus my mind, and lower my nervous energy.  I have a theory that it just leaves me too tired to be nervous, which is totally fine by me.  Running, unlike say, Tennis, allows you to perform the sport, but gives your mind the freedom to do other things.  I am aware of my body when i run, but its not like i am intensely focused on which foot to move forward- it just kind of happens naturally.  


I still have to deal with anxiety on a daily basis (who might have touched my sandwich?  Maybe this coffee is expired!!  I NEED MORE HAND SANITIZER!) But i feel very able to manage all of these feelings, and keep them too myself.  except for in this blog.  And when it gets to be too much, an hour of foot shuffling will usually soothe me back down to a manageable level of "Sara." Now i find some of my behaviors kind of endearing, like color coding all the candy, and eating things strictly from smallest to largest, and all the cute portable hand sanitizers.


I feel like both of these disorders are completely misrepresented in the media as either being intensely severe (which they can be.  sometimes.) or an exaggeration (again, i am sure some people blow things out of proportion.)  But it is also something that totally normal somewhat normal people cope with on a daily basis.  


Hopefully this gives everyone a better glimpse into the world of anxiety and OCD!

14 comments:

  1. I think most people are like you. Or most I work with... hmm...

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    1. You'd be surprised how many of us walk among you! :D

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  2. My dad drank to battle his anxiety disorder - I've been diagnosed with A LOT of stuff, but like you took the CBT approach and never looked back. I actually have stopped telling myself "I'm ______ and_________" b/c I now come from a place where I don't like being labeled. Good for you for getting it under control. Sometimes people need to take drugs but I've read so many amazing books and my only negative experiences were when I was on drugs - so I never do.

    I read this book that changed my life "psychiatry is hazardous to your mental health" - it's true. I won't bore you with my beliefs but I think in a lot of cases society doesn't help people with mental illness and they just try to mask it and thus, it makes it worse.

    I agree, everything is misrepresented and I also hate how some disorders are OVER diagnosed and then (some people) use their label as an excuse or a crutch. I actually really respect you for knowing that a lot of this is in your control, and with the right tools and support everything can be ok.

    If you ever want to hear all my labels I'd be glad to share ;) lol

    I know I have anxiety (as basically my whole dad's side does) and most of us run! it IS a great life saver :)

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    1. I'm definitely not anti-medication, just anti-medication for me :) I am going to have to check out that book!! thanks for the reco!

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  3. Thanks for letting us in and sharing this! I loved reading it, as I can relate - I was on anxiety drugs in the past (they helped tremendously) and seem to have flare-ups each year. I am in CBT right now to deal with some of that.

    It's encouraging to see that you have developed tools to help you through!

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    1. I have flare-ups all the time! Sometimes it helps just to take a personal day and disconnect :)

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  4. I totally can relate! I have never been diagnosed with any anxiety disorders, but I am positive if I looked into it I would. I had panic attacks off and on through college and resort to organizing in times of stress. I do best when I am in overdrive and that's how I usually function. I've been self-helping myself the past few years by reading lots of positive thinking books and trying to live more in the moment. Plus, having my laid back fiancé has helped tremendously. He knows when to tell me to slow down and in turn I've learned to tell myself the same thing! Sometimes, things just can't be perfect and you cannot control them!!!!

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    1. Thats the way to do it!! I swear, Matt is the lowest anxiety person i have ever met. He can walk through a Costco and not even be fazed. It's truly amazing!

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  5. Oh gosh...reading this now makes me feel NORMAL, more so because I know I am not alone in many of these feelings. Thanks for sharing this with us...xoxo
    (And speedy ass run last run!)

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  6. wow thanks for sharing, if possible you are even MORE inspiring and hard core! you rock girl!

    you are right on with the running, its one of the only times i feel totally in control...

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    1. awww, thanks! I think thats why sometimes i struggle to be a competitive runner, because i am most relaxed when i am doing it!

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  7. Such a great post! Running is definitely my stress release and anxiety cure. I've been dealing with anxiety for 8 months now due to not being able to run and chest injury. What does CBT entail? I've considering that now that I decided to stop taking medication.

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    1. I think CBT can be tailored to a lot of different situations, but a lot of it (for me anyways) was acknowledging fears, and discussing them in a safe space, and figuring out what is behind them, and then designating healthier ways of dealing with the anxiety (Washing apple twice, totally acceptable; 20 times, not a healthy behavior) It makes you hyper-aware of everything you are doing :)

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